You’re the Boat

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Steer yourself toward a life worth looking forward to

If you’re feeling like your life is missing something, but you’re not really sure what that “something” is? This book can help.

With so many distractions these days like t.v., politics, and cell phones, it’s easy to feel lost and scattered. We overwork ourselves, hoping joy and satisfaction will somehow magically show up in our lives. But when that day doesn’t come, we end up feeling frustrated and resentful, a lot of times, taking it out on the people we love the most. That’s when you know…

It’s time to step back

Instead of making yourself crazy doing the same thing over and over, you want to make a change, but where do you start? You don’t want to make a mistake, and you certainly don’t want to waste your precious time and money on something that won’t work.

What if you had something that could help you make sense of your life?

What if you could see yourself with a fresh perspective?

“The Boat is a tool we can carry without weight. …we can find our course and move forward toward a life worth looking forward to. Everyone can be helped with this…”” Mary Kalocsay 


Strategies for navigating life’s challenges.

Using visual analogies and true-life stories, this book uses the different parts of a ship to describe the different parts of your life.

For example, your heart is the ship’s wheel, your soul is the sail, your strength is the mast, the crow’s nest is your forethought, the flag is your influence. The beautiful lady on the front of the ship, that’s your face.

You are not your problems! You are the person going through them. By seeing your life broken down into smaller bits, you can start to see yourself with a fresh perspective.

Going in circles

To be honest, I came up with this analogy because I was seriously stuck. While homeschooling my son, in preparation for a year living in Brazil, I felt like I was in completely over my head and freaking out about our up-coming trip. About a month before we were going to leave, while walking my dog, I asked noone in particular “How am I supposed to get through this?!” The answer that followed changed my life forever

“You know, your attitude is a lot like the rudder on a ship. As long as you can keep your attitude adjusted appropriately, you can get where you need to go. But if it get’s stuck, then you’ll just go in circles, frustrating yourself and everyone else around you.”  page 8

By asking for help from my Captain and focusing on adjusting my attitude, I learned how to steer out of my funk and sail toward a much happier life. I started writing this analogy into a book and occasionally “throwing myself under the boat”, with the hopes of helping other people get where they need to go.

Make it simple

The analogy is really simple. By breaking down your life into four systems; Guidance, Logistics, Propulsion and Navigation, you can see where making small but targeted changes can drastically impact and improve your entire life.

It starts with the guidance system which helps you tap into your Awareness, giving you an opportunity to recognize who or what (God, Allah, the Universe, the Divine, the Source, the Force…) is steering you.

The logistics system helps you understand how to take really good care of yourself and your Crew.

The propulsion system gives you a better understanding of how to face your challenges in order to move your life forward.

The navigation system teaches you how to look ahead toward a life you truly want.

“With so many tools available today, Pam’s insights and explanations are easy to comprehend, make sense, and [gave] me confidence so I can navigate through my sea of life and find peace, serenity, joy, love, and laughter. I highly recommend this.” Madonna Van Fossen

Quick and easy-to-read

With all the self-help books and programs out in the world today, you can spend tons of time and money trying to get yourself the help you need. But if you don’t have an endless supply of resources and you’re looking for help immediately, this analogy is a great place to start.

 Here’s what other people have said about the Boat

“I read this book in one sitting and still read from it every day. The first line on the back cover says “How am I supposed to get through this?” and I gotta say people, how many of us can relate to that?! This ain’t no wishy-washy self-help book. This is a field guide for the soul. Pam gives us true insight on how to get though our struggles and build on our strengths. I can tell this book comes from her heart and that means so much in this crazy world.” Scott Valdez

“It is great and will be very helpful to me.” Amy Castolene


For a deeper understanding

Pick up a You’re the Boat workbook!  

Get the workbook pdf for $3   

It’s chock full of questions and journal prompts to challenge and inspire you to apply the ideas in the book. It also includes…

  1. a worksheet to figure out your top three of the 9 Basic Human Needs
  2. the Values/Anti-Values list
  3. the Soundtrack to the movie of your life.

The workbook — combined with the You’re the Boat book — is a great tool to help you see yourself. It can be downloaded immediately, ready for you to print out all at once or one page at a time. It’s formatted to print out on standard 8.5″ x 11″ paper.

Recognize how truly valuable and important you really are.

The world needs you. Your life and the energy you offer is your gift. Your family and friends want to see you happy and fulfilled. This book, along with the workbook, will help you learn about who you are and what’s truly important to you so you can chart a course toward a life you’ll love.

photo credit Brenda Timmermans

photo credit Brenda Timmermans

I look forward to helping you steer a course toward a life worth living. I’ll be happy to sign your book, and if you are interested in coaching, or bringing me in to talk to your class, group or staff meeting please reach out.

xoxo Pam Belding

“This book really makes you take another look at your life and how we respond to the things around us.”” Kris MacQueen

“I think everyone that’s having trouble in their life, thinks their life is perfect, or is just a plain ol’ person should read this and take it to heart and use it as a guide to happiness and contentment. It’s really something special.” Nancy Valdez