As I was taking my walk on Monday, I had an epiphany!!
Since I first drew up this analogy back in May of 2008, I’ve always thought the center window of the boat that shows a table and chairs with cards and drinks on it represented relaxation. I couldn’t have been further from the truth.
This past Friday morning, I went over to my girlfriend Kora’s house, to have coffee with her and a whole bunch of other friends. (We call each other “the Support Ho’s” because we hang out, drink coffee and help each other with stuff).
I was pretty amp’d up because I was excited to be sharing my Boat at the New Leaf in Clarkston that evening. (The Inspirational song for this week was playing in my head all day!) When I walked into Kora’s, it was already loud and boisterous!! The ladies were all laughing and chatting a million miles an hour! One of our ladies had just come back from a trip, so we were all dying to hear how it all went. (Very well, thanks for asking.)
It was this particular part of the day that I was thinking about on my walk, (all of us sitting around the table, laughing), that made me realize that the part of the Boat that I thought was about relaxation, wasn’t very relaxing at all.
It was about FUN!
Pure, natural, loud, raucous FUN!!
Remember the old saying….
“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.”
Well, it’s completely true for Jill too!!
Now I realize that my Captain has been trying to tell me something ever since I hosted the party for Susan last week! We all had a blast, and all of that fun inspired the Soundtrack of party songs . Although I do my best to pay attention, sometimes it takes me a bit to catch up.
However, I’m trying to get better at noticing the signs because, just yesterday I found this TED video on FaceBook…
In this video, Isabel Behncke talks about her study of Bonobo apes of the Congolese jungles in Africa.
Their society, run by the females, is highly tolerant and non-violent. They are known as the “Make love, not war” apes because they use sex and play to establish relationships and solve problems.
“Play is foundational for bonding relationships and fostering tolerance. Play increases creativity and resilience and is at the roots of laughter, dance and ritual. Play is the glue that bonds us together.“
Sitting in Kora’s kitchen last Friday, (as well as having a birthday party for Susan) was truly,unadulterated fun! We were all laughing, smiling, talking, and bonding. We weren’t relaxing. We were all having fun!
Of course, it couldn’t last all day. I had to go build work books and the rest of the ladies had their responsibilities to attend to, as well.
Play helps to balance out the weight of our responsibilities.
Notice the window with the table, chairs, cards and drinks is centered in the picture of the Boat? (It’s NOT in the original! ahem!) That represents how fun needs to be balanced in our lives. Although we can’t play all day long, it’s essential to make sure there’s room for it. It helps to establish bonds of trust and support and it strengthens our Crew.
Especially when life gets frustrating and difficult, the best we can all do is try to enjoy the process.
Playing gives us all something to look forward to, as well as back upon.
I can remember when my sister and I were little, Mom and Daddy would stay home on New Years Eve and we’d all play penny-ante poker until about 5 or 6 in the morning! Then Mom would make us all a great, big breakfast of home-made buttermilk pancakes, bacon and eggs.
(Thanks Mom! xoxo )
After everybody ate, we’d go sleep until noon, and then get up and watch football the rest of the day.
So what do you think, my friendly blog reader?
What’s fun for you?
Who do you play with?
What are you looking forward to?
I’d love to hear about it in the comments below!!
Have a great week and I’ll be back on Monday with the Inspirational song of the week.
p.s. If you’re in South-East Michigan and looking for something to do this weekend, Saturday night is our Annual Night at the Races DDA fundraiser! It’s horse-racing, betting, drinks and snacks. Tickets are only $20 and you get entered to win the Grand prize, a mini-vacation from the Soaring Eagle Casino valued at $250. You don’t have to be present to win, but you’ll definitely want to come out and play!!
p.p.s. Coming up June 4th is our CreekFest event, a family friendly all day festival dedicated to educating people about the health of our Kearsley Creek, one of only 2 designated trout streams in Oakland County. We’ll have exhibits, games, bounce-houses, food, shows and live music! (Anyone interested in being a vendor, e-mail me at pambelding at gmail dot com !!)
p.p.p.s. Of course, the Beets, Beats & Eats farmers market is coming up June 17 through Sept. 2! Every Friday night from 6-9pm in Crossman park, right behind the Village Pub, we have vendors (if your interested in joining in the fun, let me know!), musicians, play equipment for the kids and different theme nights, like the Art Contest, Coloring Contest, Kids night, Bike night, the Quilt show, Photo Contest and much, much, more!!
Let everyone know, there’s something to look forward to in Ortonville!!!!!!