*It’s been a couple of weeks since I originally posted this and I’ve realized that I missed a few things.
The first thing is that we’re NEVER done! We need to regularly look at and adjust our provisions because not only do our circumstances change, WE change as we grow! We’ll need different stuff, just like our kids constantly need new shoes because they’re growing so fast.
We also need to remember to be kind to ourselves and our loved ones about this process. You wouldn’t yell at your kid for needing new shoes (I hope). Be kind and compassionate, recognize what is needed and then go after it. Remember to let go of thinking you should already have it.
That last thing (for now) is stillness. Our minds need stillness in order to think clearly. Like a pond, if we keep reaching into it, reaching for whatever ‘it’ is we ‘need’, stirring up the muck at the bottom, we’ll never be able to see through the water. When we sit quietly and let the ‘stuff’ settle, we can see more clearly. Our Captain wants to helps us find our needs just as badly as we need them, but we can’t really hear or understand the signs and messages until we find stillness.
And now, my friendly blog reader…..back to our regularly schedule blog post! xoxo
For those of you new to this blog, I’m working on writing a book about an analogy I wrote a few years ago called “You are the Boat”. I’ve written about half of it and you can catch up by reading this link So far.
Let me start with a quick story…
When we were packing up to move to Brasil for a year, I had to think about what I and my family would need for a year. I knew I didn’t want to pack too much, because it would be heavy and difficult to carry around, but at the same time, I didn’t want to forget something we needed but couldn’t get there. I spent weeks thinking and making lists Eventually I just did the best I could. As it turned out I did a pretty good job, but only because I had put in lots and lots of time thinking about it all ahead of time.
As the Boat, it’s your job to make sure you’ve got what you need.
No one else in the world can know as well as you do what you need, but first you have to think about it and then go get it.
It’s important to make sure you get your needs met, because when you do, you’ll feel strong, hopeful and confident. You’ll be more generous and patient with yourself and your crew. People will look up to you and trust you because they can see that you respect yourself. Your crew will be more likely to follow your example. They’ll learn to take care of themselves, enabling you all to have a fun, fulfilling adventure.
Just as important as knowing what you need is being able to get to it. If you think you have what you need, but just can’t get to it because there’s other stuff in the way, then you really don’t have it.
Letting go of the stuff that no longer serves you is just as vital for a happy, fulfilling life as getting your needs met. This isn’t just about physical stuff, but emotional stuff too.
It all comes down to discernment. You have the power to decide what matters to you and what doesn’t. When you use that power to focus on bringing in what you need while letting go of what you don’t need, that is discernment.
So do you know what you need, my friendly blog reader?
Would you like some help figuring out your Top 10?
Okay, let’s start with the basics.
1) Clean water 2) clean food 3) clean shelter.
Easy so far, right?! How about what you need to leave the house? 4) clothes, 5) shoes and 6) freshly brushed teeth and 7) a clean body. We’re already up to 7!
For the last 3, let’s talk about the 9 Basic Human Needs by Barbara Taylor. I found her newsletter on-line while I was looking up curriculum when I was home-schooling my son. She describes how everyone has 9 Basic human needs; security, adventure, freedom, exchange, power, expansion, acceptance, community and expression. Barbara talks about how each of us has 3 primary needs with the other 6 to a lesser degree. These needs manifest themselves in the positive when they’re being met and the negative when they’re not. I’ve found it to be extremely useful when looking at people’s behavior (including my own) and then trying to figure out what they need by how they’re acting. Take a look at Barbara’s link and then pick out your top 3 needs. Feel free to share yours in the comments. Or if that’s too scary, but you still want to share, you can e-mail me at pambelding at gmail dot com. I look forward to hearing what you discover!!
Before I finish, I’d love to share this with you. It’s from Michael Nobleza writing for TinyBuddha.com (click the link to read the whole article.)
“Balance is about our inner relationship to who we are and what matters.
Harmony is the outer relationship between who we are and the world around us.
We can achieve balance and harmony if we determine what it is we need and then take action to fill that need.”
I sincerely hope this has helped, my friendly blog reader!
I’d love to know what you think in the comments below!
p.s. My top 3 basic needs are expression, exchange and expansion.