*Hello, my friendly blog reader!! Instead of writing the Inspirational word of the week, I’m writing about the Build your confidence series. The past two weeks I’ve written about the first two steps, 1. Desire a sense of possibility. And 2. Encourage compassion and accountability. You can click the links to read about them. Today we move on to the third step.*
Motivation (noun) providing an incentive to act.
Communication (noun) exchange of ideas, information, or feelings.
Education (noun) acquiring knowledge, developing the power to reason and preparing oneself for life.
The other day I was talking with a lady-friend about her frustration with her 17 year old daughter. They’re not getting along well (to say the least) and although both of them hate the situation, neither of them knows how to change it.
Unfortunately, this is not an unusual case. I’ve been there (although not with a 17 year old) and I’m sure you probably have at one time or another, as well! Many people live in situations where they’re terribly unhappy, but feel stuck and unable to change it. Although I’m not a religious person, I consider this Hell on Earth. To have the energy of life but not the ability or confidence to direct that energy in the ‘right’ direction.
This third step of the Build your confidence series directly relates to where you energy needs to be focused in order to get beyond the stuck pattern of frustration, anxiety and worry.
When we aim our energy toward motivating ourselves and the other people around us, we create an up-lifting feeling, and a healthy mood. One that encourages and supports a healthy spirit, instead of crushing it.
By communicating our best intentions and educating ourselves (and others) about what kind of life we hope to create, we create a path toward a happier, more fulfilling life.
Do you know what motivates you? Have you even thought about it? Do the people around you know what your best intentions are? What motivates them? (here’s a link to Dan Pink’s fascinating book Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us. I HIGHLY recommend it!!)
I can’t tell you what motivates you. That’s not my place. (It’s Dan’s)
What I can do is tell you what motivates me.
I want to use my energy to help people focus on the full enjoyment of all things. In order to do that, I write this blog, volunteer in my community, work with the Welcome Wagon, read Oracle cards, spend time with my lady-friends and walk 4 miles every day, smiling and waving to people on my trip around the lake. I aim to cultivate a healthy, happy home life so that my wonderful son will grow up to believe that he can have one as well. I enjoy my life and hope that in so doing, other people will see that it’s possible and be inspired to enjoy theirs as well.
I get motivated when I see other people smile and wave back. When I hear excitement in someone’s voice about our up-coming events in town. When I feel the camaraderie and support of my friends. When I see local businesses reach out to their community in a way that shows their customers how valuable and important they are. When I see someone reach out for guidance and accept it in the realization that their life is a gift to be opened and appreciated.
All of these things motivate me.
What about you? What are you looking forward to?
What if the solution to your problems was to just stop thinking so much?
What if you could aim your energy toward feeling the way you want to feel?
What would that feel like?
I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!!
Have a wonderful week and I’ll be back next week with the Inspirational song of the week!