Today is Wednesday, which means it’s time for the Inspirational word of the day!
**I have been focusing on putting this image into this blog for more than 2 hours. I am tired and frustrated and have decided to call this good enough for now and go FOCUS on my family! Thanks for understanding ;)**
Focus: (noun) a central point of attraction, attention or activity. (verb) to concentrate.
Go here for the dictionary.com definition
This word is both a noun AND a verb which I think gives it twice as much power.
The project pictured above measures 20″wide by 25″ tall. The frame is painted silver and the background material is hot pink micro-corduroy. I used my spare bag o’ beads to spell out the word FOCUS.
I made this project in the winter of 2005. We had just bought our house in November of 2004 and moved in right after Thanksgiving. I was lucky to have saved a few things from our previous home, but we had sold at least 80% of our stuff when we moved to Mexico. (One of the many lessons learned from that is NEVER SELL TOOLS. It pays to store them.)
Anyway, after the holidays, my husband went to Venezuela for 14 weeks. My son was 4 years old and our dog Tootsie was just a baby, learning to potty out in the snow. We had bought beds, a couch, a television and a kitchen table and chairs, but all the rest of our stuff was stuck in Mexico, so I couldn’t paint walls or do my “nesting”. I was just waiting………Ack!!
Those few weeks were very difficult to get through. I cried a lot and felt very stuck and alone. Although I had figured out the whole “pink thing” attitude adjustment while I was in Mexico, I wasn’t feeling confident in my new surroundings. It didn’t feel like my house, and there wasn’t anything I could really do but wait for our stuff to arrive. One day I called up my neighbor across the street to see if my son could play with hers for a while. Fortunately she agreed, so I took out my bag of art stuff and started putting together this project.
The whole time I worked on it, I was asking myself, “What am I supposed to be doing? Why am I not happy? Why haven’t any of my neighbors come over to have tea or chat with me? The real estate agent said our neighborhood was friendly and outgoing. What the hell is wrong with me!!!!!?????”
What I learned from making this project is that my life will become whatever I focus my attention upon.
I get what I give my attention to. Whatever I focus my energy on will grow. So if I continued to swirl around in the drama of being miserable and out of my comfort zone, I would just get more drama. By focusing on taking care of myself, my son, our dog and our new house, I started to feel better and in more control of my emotions. Daily phone calls from the hubby certainly helped out a lot too!
I made an active effort to focus on being happier. Every single day I made a choice to keep on smiling, whether I felt like it or not. I became determined to feel better.
I eventually got to know my neighbors. Our stuff finally came in so I could set up house and the dog finally learned to stop peeing on the floor after I took her to obedience classes (I highly recommend the Common Scents Canine Center!!) I started selling my art at the Beets, Beats & Eats country market, and then volunteering with the DDA to help run the market.
I’m not bored anymore
This quote from Seth Godin would have done me wonders back then.
“Smart business people focus on the things they have the power to change, not whining about the things they don’t.”
I was taking my walk a couple of weeks ago, when this line pops into my head.
“It’s good to be doin’ what you’re supposed to be doin’ with the people you’re doin’ it with.”
So I kept walking, saying it over and over, kind of like a mantra. When I got home, I told my son about it. He smiled and said “Yeah, that’s pretty cool. It answers a lot of questions, doesn’t it?” Then he plopped down on the couch to watch SpongeBob Squarepants.
2009 has been a really great year for me and my family. I have learned a lot of things, only to realize that there are still boatloads of things I still want to learn. (like how to work my computer, how to market my art, how to find my “right people”, how to keep working with my friends to make Ortonville the vibrant place we need it to be…….no shortage of stuff to do!!)
In the meantime, I will focus on the things that I do have the power to change.
I will continue to post the Inspirational song of the week on Mondays and then the Inspirational word of the day on Wednesdays.
I will continue to focus on cultivating joy, faith, hope, peace, love and courage in order to be a successful wife, mother and friend.
I will continue to take my walks and see inspiration in the everyday.
I will continue to recognize what a tremendously lucky lady I am and feel appreciation and gratitude for it.
I will continue to balance what I want to do with what I need to do.
I will continue to be supportive of and supported by my family and friends.
I will continue to live well, despite the distractions!
What do you think? What are you focusing on for 2010?
I wish you, my friendly blog reader, a very safe and Happy New Year!!!!
Catch you on the flip side xoxoxooxo