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At the very front of the Boat is the Figurehead. This represents our Face. Our facial expression tells a lot about how we are feeling.
For example, I’ll bet you can tell how these people are feeling just by looking at these pictures……
Unless you have some types of Asperger’s Syndrome, Autism or Social Emotional Agnosia, you can probably recognize these faces as scared, happy and disappointed. (Although even people who have these disorders can learn how to recognize them, but it takes practice.)
The expression on our face tells other people how to respond to us. When we don’t get the response we’re expecting, it’s probably a good idea to stop and think about what our face was expressing to the other person.
Our face makes our first impression. Whenever we walk into a new situation, we can decide how we’ll be seen.
Show everyone a strong, calm, confident face, they’ll respond with trust and acceptance.
Show a face that is frightened or angry, they’re going to respond fearfully.
Fearful people can’t trust or be trusted to make smart, rational decisions. They’re certainly not going to rush in to help out.
It helps everyone involved when we take a moment and seriously consider how we want to be perceived.
Even when we don’t ‘feel’ strong, calm and confident, by making an effort to put on that face, we stand a much better chance of becoming that way because of the response we’ll get from others.
Gretchen Rubin talks about this in her Happiness Project. She says “One of the most helpful things I’ve learned in my happiness research is that although we think that we act because of the way we feel, in fact, we often feel because of the way we act.” She shares a quote ….
“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which is not.” William James
Confidence comes with experience. The more experience we have facing new people and situations, the better we’ll be able to handle them.
Which brings us to how we face our future.
When a Boat is out to sea and a storm comes, the best way to handle the big waves is by facing directly into them.
By turning the Boat head-on, the effect of the wave is minimized as the wave gets split and goes past. If we turn the Boat away from the wave, it gets caught broad-side and the full force of the wave could flip the Boat over.
The same principle applies to us.
When we face up to our problems, we minimize their effects on our lives, allowing us to sail along, gain more experience and feel more confident along the way. However, when we try to ignore our problems by turning away from them, that’s when we take on their full force. Ugh! (Remember, your Crew will be feeling the effects of these problems as well. It’s your responsibility to keep your Crew safe at all times.)
We all have stormy seas that, if we let them, will teach us how to navigate our Boat toward a life worth looking forward to. Confidence doesn’t come from knowing we won’t have any more problems. Confidence comes from knowing that, with help from our Crew and our Captain we’ll be able to handle those problems when we steer head-on and learn from them.
I hope this has helped, my friendly blog reader.
I’d love to read what you think in the comments below!
Have a wonderful week!