Crow’s Nest/Forethought & Flag/Influence

For those of you new to this blog, I’m working on writing a book. You can catch up by reading this So Far, then  Provisions/Needs, followed by Recreation/Fun, Sleeping Quarters/Recovery, and then Figurehead/Face. I truly appreciate you being here, my friendly blog reader. Thanks for stopping by! xoxo

boat_pamela_belding-_-300x228At the top of the Mast is the Crow’s Nest and the Flag.

The Crow’s Nest represents Forethought and the Flag represents Influence.

They’re both supported by the Mast which symbolizes Strength.

My Note from the Universe this morning was so timely, I just have to share it with you, my friendly blog reader.

“Whenever feeling utterly bamboozled or bored by life, Pam, seek a higher perspective. Because being bamboozled or bored, means there is one.”

As I write this book and blog, my friendly blog reader, I’m trying to keep in mind that higher perspective and focus on love, compassion, grace, faith, bravery and joy. Although it’s easy to fall into the old habits of complaining, bickering and judgement, those lower levels of thinking will only drag me and my Crew down. I’m responsible for all of my thoughts and actions. Even when I have every reason in the world to bitch, moan and complain, my family and friends deserve better. I’m trying to remember that my struggles develop my strength.

So that’s what I’m currently working on….. Being a positive influence, at least more often than not!

Last week, after doing massage at the Senior Center and then the Stretch at the Village office, I came home and helped my son plan his birthday party. We looked up games and figured out what we’d need to keep 10 boys occupied, well-fed and happy for 3 hours. We wrote out a list supplies for the games, as well as prizes, food and goodie bags, then we headed out to Meijer.

As we drove, the conversation turned toward why taking care of ourselves is so important.

“When you take good care of yourself, other people can see that and then they’ll be inspired to take care of themselves as well. That’s what being a good influence is all about.”

As we sail through life, we’ll be influencing other people. When we plan ahead and think about what kind of influence we want to have, we’re showing those other people respect.

amy-sedaris-i-like-youThink about when you’re planning a party.

There’s a lot to think about! Everything from making sure the pathway to the door is clear, the bathroom is cleaned and well stocked with toilet paper and clean towels, having enough chairs, food and drinks, not to mention decorations and entertainment. You and your party go-ers will have a lot more fun when you plan ahead.

A successful party takes effort and forethought. So does a successful life.

There’s so much to think about in our day to day responsibilities, that it’s easy to get caught up in the everyday drama. Sometimes we forget to take time-out, to climb up above it all in order to gain a ‘higher perspective‘ and think about the future.

“The greatest gift you can give another person is your own happiness.” xoxo Pam

When we plan ahead, and focus on looking for  joy, faith, courage, grace and love, we end up having an even better time, because all that planning and forethought gives us a chance to relax and be more fully in the moment instead of worrying about the drama, problems and details.


One of the tools that has really helped me with this is Click here to view more details The Sailboat Kit by Eileen Corrigan Valazza. ( I LOVE the fact that she uses a Boat metaphor!!  :) ) In this e-book, Eileen helps gently guide us through figuring out what needs to be done, prioritizing it and then finding the time to make sure it can happen. I’ve been using it for about a year now and I can’t believe how much difference it has made in my life. Instead of worrying and wasting my time floating around in circles, I’ve become more productive and calm. I can more easily relax and I even sleep better because I know I’m headed in the right direction, doing what I need to be doing.

I’ve decided to become an affiliate for this because I’m living proof that this works. When you click on the link and purchase this kit, I’ll get a little something for it. But most importantly, you’ll get the piece of mind that comes from knowing you’re no longer wasting your time worrying about what you’re supposed to be doing. So go check it out. You will feel better, I have no doubt.

I hope this has helped you, my friendly blog reader!

I’d be most honored if you would leave a comment below and let me know what you think!

Have a great week and I’ll be back on Monday with the Inspirational song of the week!

xoxo Pam

p.s. The party went off without a hitch!  The weather was absolutely PERFECT and everyone had a really good time!!!

p.p.s. A friend of mine asked me what I thought about eternal life in Heaven or Hell. This was my response…..

“I believe that what I do with my time and intentions will ultimately shape my influence and create my legacy. Although my physical body will die, my ideas and influence will live on in the memories and experiences of the people I leave behind. This is how I’ll live forever.

In response to the stormy seas of life, my husband Blake and I have created this website to be a Current of Inspiration, a wave of love and joy to wash away hate and fear. By posting every week, it's our commitment to making our world a better place. We hope you find it uplifting and will share it with your friends! Thanks for stopping by! xoxo

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2 comments on “Crow’s Nest/Forethought & Flag/Influence
  1. Molly says:

    Pam, Positive influence and attitude are hard work! You are right, this is a HUGE gift to give to others. And passing it along, making it stick to others – that is magic.

    When I get frustrated, it is hard not to say kavetch to people I trust and love. Sometimes, though, it doesn’t help anyone! So, when I have control of myself (aka mouth), I keep silent until I find ways to objectively and quantifiably describe reasons to be positive about the frustrating situation.

    An objective description of what makes a scenario successful. An objective list of what my particular situation has that is spot on. A way to measure this success – be it compared to a past situation, or a related event. Yes! I can use these statements to pass along my good attitude!

    Great post, Pam! Love thinking along with you.

  2. Pam Belding says:

    Thanks for the great comment Molly! xoxo

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