What’s the difference between self-confidence and arrogance?
Defined by Webster’s dictionary…
Arrogance is “an exaggerated sense of one’s importance that shows itself in the making of excessive or unjustified claims.” For example, “the arrogant young lawyer elbowed his way to the head of the line of customers, declaring that he was too busy to wait like everybody else.” Basically, arrogance comes from trying to impress other people without the background, experience or qualifications to back it up.
Self-confidence is “a great faith in oneself or one’s abilities.” For example, “the experience gave her the confidence to start her own business.” Confidence comes from knowing that your practice, experience and learning will enable you to succeed.
Arrogance comes from trying to impress people.
Self-confidence comes from knowledge, hard work and discipline.
How often do we play down our strengths, or worse, undermine ourselves because we don’t want to be seen as arrogant? Our culture loves to accuse people of being arrogant or smug, as if making people feel small is going to keep them humble. The truth is, it’s passive-aggressive and it doesn’t help anyone. Making people feel small is a form of hostility and abuse.
“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the truly great make you feel that you too, can be great.” Mark Twain
If you’re worried that talking well about yourself is going to make the other people think that you’re arrogant, first think about whether you’re saying it because you want to show off. If you’re constantly trying to impress people with how much you know and what you’ve done, then maybe it would be a good idea to keep it to yourself. (As hard is it is to admit, I’ve found myself to be guilty of this and have had to learn to think before I speak.)
However, if you’re excited about an up-coming adventure and you want to share that excitement with the people you love, do your best to focus on talking to people who really want the best for you. THIS IS NOT EASY. Not everyone in your circle of family and friends is going to understand your excitement. They may see your hard work as a sign of what they haven’t done and feel jealous. PLEASE!!Don’t let their reaction spoil your joy.
The world needs you, your passion and your joy. Focus on your dream and don’t let other’s opinions get in the way. You know how much time and energy you’ve spent to make your dream come true. Although it would be nice to be able to share that dream with everyone you love, don’t let their acceptance become a deciding factor in who you’re becoming. You’re dream is going to help you grow in ways you can’t even imagine. Learning to believe in yourself without the approval of others is one of those first lessons.
So, what do you think, my friendly blog reader?
I sincerely hope this helps you in the pursuit of your dreams.
I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments below.
p.s. Thanks to Google for the images.