Everything happens for a reason.
You’ve heard that before, I’m sure, but did you ever stop and think about what it was you were supposed to learn?
Usually it’s the pain and anguish that comes with the problem that gets in the way of the lesson. Fear, shame, guilt and anger all have a way of ‘fogging up the lense’ of reality. Our job, as self-aware people with a desire to grow, is to set aside the hurt feelings and take a pragmatic view of what has happened so that we can learn from it.
There’s always something good and useful in the challenges we face. It’s in through struggle of facing our problems and recognizing the lessons, that we will eventually grow stronger.
Once again, in the analogy You’re the Boat, the waves represent our challenges. By facing into the waves, we allow our challenges to lift us up and propel us forward. But if we avoid them and turn away, we risk getting hit broad-side, which can severely rock our boat, or even capsize us.
Have you ever met someone who has the same problems, over and over again? It’s because they’ve been turning away from the challenge, focusing on the problem and how they feel about it instead of the lesson. It’s horrible to watch, painful for them and everyone around them, but until they face into that challenge, and do the work of learning the lessons, they’re doomed to repeat the cycle.
If you’re reading this and recognize this pattern within yourself, my friendly blog reader, DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP!! (Welcome to the club! ) Absolutely no good will come from hating on yourself. (I’m telling you this from personal experience.) Don’t waste your time and energy wallowing in the feelings that keep you down. Doing so is simply a waste of time and counter-productive to your soul’s purpose. You deserve a better future. (We all do!)
I can promise you that when you open-heartedly ask for help, your Captain will come to your rescue. Your Captain will steer you forward from that stuck place, but first you have to ask for help AND then be willing to receive that help when it comes. (That’s where the open-hearted part comes in, because your heart is the ship’s wheel.) Sometimes the message comes through another person, like a friend or family member (especially young children. They’re highly tuned in to Divine Guidance). It could be a feeling that washes over you, or a phrase that pops into your head or something you hear on the radio/tv. It could even be a sudden realization that no matter what has happened, you are going to be okay. (BTW, these have all happened to me, that’s how I know!)
Your self-awareness and the desire to develop your life, are your best tools to creating a life worth looking forward to. Trust your Captain, ask for help and give yourself plenty of time to practice becoming more aware of the lessons within your challenges. By doing these things, you’ll grow stronger and be out beyond that stuck place before you know it. With your sails full and lessons learned, you’ll be charting a course toward a life worth looking forward to!