Life…it’s in the details.

*Today’s post is a classic hit from 2016. Although Garrett is driving now, I feel fortunate he’s also started taking walks with me around the lake. We enjoy every moment.*

Wonderful son, Garrett and I were sitting in Starbucks the other day, sipping our coffee drinks and munching on crumb cake, when he mentioned “We’re the only ones in here not using tech.”

I looked up from my nibbles to see he was absolutely right. Everyone there besides us, minus the employees, was busy on their phone, tablet or laptop. There were a couple of ladies using a laptop to Skype with another friend of their’s, but basically we were the only people there simply savoring the moment.

Details, details

How often does that even happen anymore?

How often do you see people passing the time without a device in their hand?guy-looking-at-computer-screen

How much life do people miss because they’re lost behind a screen?

Now, I’m not trying to say all screens are bad all the time because that would be ridiculous. The technological advancements of our day have enabled us to do things faster and more efficiently than we could have ever dreamed of. Stranded on the side of the road? Not for long, thanks to the cell phone. Need directions? The GPS is a freaking god-send. Want to catch up with a far-away friend? FaceBook or Skype to the rescue!

Yes, technology is wonderful sometimes, but I can’t help but think if we’re not missing out on the real juice of life because we’re so busy planning, plotting and tuning in to what’s ahead that we lose track of the simple gift of being Present.  (Remember? Yes, you ARE a gift :) )

Savor the moment

As Garrett and I continued to sip our coffee drinks, I tried to let time just

slow

down

for a little while.

Garrett's new car

Garrett’s new car

You see, Garrett will be 16 in just a few weeks and I know there will come a time in the not-too-distant future when he’ll be busy. Hopefully not too busy to still find some quality time to spend with his mom, but yes, I know he’ll be busy planning, plotting and tuning in to what’s ahead. He won’t stay my little boy forever and that’s okay. I want him looking forward to a happy, healthy, successful life, while still appreciating the time he has living in the present.

In the meantime, while we sat there together, sipping our coffee drinks and enjoying the last of our nibbles, I thought of something Elizabeth Gilbert said in her latest book Big Magic

“The more lightly you can pass the time, the brighter your existence becomes.” 

Time well spent

So, instead of wasting those precious minutes worrying about time and how fast my son’s growing, I sat and tuned in to the happiness, savoring every moment, basking in the glorious feeling of time well spent.

He's growing up fast!

He’s growing up fast!

That little detail made all the difference in our time together. *deep sigh of satisfaction*

What do you think, my friendly blog reader?

How have you been spending your time?

What details are you noticing?

I’d love to read your thoughts in the comments below.

xoxo Pam

p.s. If you know of someone else who could use a dose of inspiration (especially with all the craziness overwhelming our attention these days) please feel free to share this website with them. Together, we can be a Current of Inspiration out into the world. Regular people can make a difference, especially when we work together! xoxo

p.p.s. If you’re looking for someone to help you unwrap the gift of your Presence, I’d love to hear from you. 

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Be gentle with yourself.

It’s that time of year again. Time to get busy!

With the warmer weather, you can finally open the windows and start the spring cleaning.

The flowers are coming up and the gardens are calling for your attention too. It’s time to start cleaning out the dead leaves and making room for new growth.

Speaking of new growth, chances are pretty good your kids need to go shopping for clothes and shoes again.

And if you didn’t already have a lot on your to-do list, your taxes are due soon.

The trap of thinking

There’s a lot pulling on your attention these days, but don’t fall into the trap of thinking you have to get everything done at once.

The human mind loves new information, so when there’s so much new stuff to do, your mind goes into overdrive. Like most people, your initial reaction is to get busy and pack your schedule full in the hopes of getting it all done. You work yourself twice as hard, taking advantage of the longer days and promising yourself you won’t forget anything. You dream of one day basking in the glory of finishing all the things!

Who’s driving the bus?

family time

The problem occurs when your mind overwhelms your heart and your body. Instead of using your presence to choose what feels like the right thing to do, you let your to-do list drive the bus.

In the hopes of scratching one more thing off your list, you put your relationships with your family and friends, and even your own body, in the backseat. You focus all your time and attention onto some arbitrary time in the future where you’re finally done. Unfortunately, hurt feelings and a sore back are the price you pay when you lose track of what’s truly important.

What matters.

Even with the extended to-do list, your life in the present moment is still your greatest work of art. Your goal needs to be living a beautiful, fulfilling life. Not just ticking off a to-do list. Does it really matter that your gardens are clean if your body feels like a punching bag? Do you want your kids to think finishing the shopping matters more than they do? Are the dust bunnies under the couch more important than taking a walk and listening to the birds with your Sweetie?

“The greatest gift you can give another person is your own happiness.” Pam Belding

Your life becomes a collection of days made up of everything you focus on. Remember, no matter how long that list gets, you’re still creating memories with your family and friends. Don’t let your happiness be dependent upon something outside yourself. Keep your eye on the prize.

Have some fun and be gentle with yourself, my friendly blog reader.

xoxo Pam

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