Self-mastery begins with self-awareness.

*This card is from the Fifth Agreement deck by Don Miguel Ruiz & Don Jose Ruiz.*

Here’s the message on the back…

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“With awareness I know that I can change my virtual world by changing what I believe. What is real I cannot change, and it doesn’t matter what I believe.”

The stories we tell ourselves can seem like the truth. The thoughts running through our head seem perfectly logical and rational until we bump up against someone who doesn’t think like we do, or we discover a situation that isn’t exactly as we think it should be.

Our beliefs will convince us that it’s the other person or the situation that’s wrong. We point out how deluded they are because their point of view is so completely different from our own. They must be bad, ignorant, evil or just plain stupid to believe what they believe.

We put ourselves above that person or situation out of fear. It’s fear that turns us away from people and things we don’t understand. It shortens our perspective to a fraction of the truth. The truth is, everybody believes they have a good reason for doing what they do, and believing what they believe. The difference between good and evil is whether or not they’re trying to force their beliefs on someone else.

thinking girlIt’s hard enough to change our own thoughts and beliefs. Trying to change someone else’s is darn near impossible. The best place to focus your attention is the reason behind your actions. That’s what self-mastery is all about.

Remember, your mind is not who you are. Those thoughts going through your head are not necessarily the truth. They’re simply the product of your brain and your perspective. Nothing more and nothing less.

The truth is….. fear separates and fragments people and situations. Focusing your attention on judging others pulls you away from doing what it is you are supposed to be doing, and what you’re supposed to be doing is sharing your gifts with the world. Honing your talents and skills takes tremendous focus and self-mastery. Controlling your attention is a challenge, especially when it makes you aware of your own short-comings. Sharing your gifts can be difficult because not everyone is going to be kind and understanding. Don’t take it personally when someone finds fault with what you say or do, (okay, well, you can but that’s just distracting and frustrating). What you should focus on is being aware of the reason behind your actions.

Keep focusing on doing your best. Practice staying open to the flow and pay attention to your attention. Be gentle with yourself and try to be understanding when people and situations don’t meet your expectations.

The only thing you truly have any control over is your own attitude.

So, what gifts are you sharing with the world,  my friendly blog reader?

I’d love to read about them in the comments below.

xoxo Pam

p.s.  The Enjoy the process coloring contest is day after tomorrow at the BB&E!! Have you started your piece yet?

I post every Monday through Friday because I believe by virtue of being human you deserve to be inspired. Please feel free to add your thoughts and ideas in the comments. I'm so incredibly glad you're here!! Thanks for stopping in. :)

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